Dudeee and Fannyyyy! I have no idea why I just said that but no matter, let’s shall move on with the topic.
I’ve realized for the past couple of months, that my Facebook’s (yes, I activated it again but kept the rest deactivated/deleted) newsfeed is full of articles, posts, statuses about the modern hook up or dating culture. Don’t get me wrong, it is not that I loathe that topic but it got me thinking on how people can take this matter very seriously that it keeps on popping on my newsfeed. It is kinddd of annoying at this point.
Right, so let me just tell you what I think about this whole new phenomenon that has been happening around lately. Honestly, I like the fact that this hook up culture involves less feeling of attachment, because I suck at feelings; feeling in love, heartbroken, depression and the stage where you have to build yourself up again and learn the lessons. Been there, done that, not the best parts of my life. That being said, doesn’t necessarily be a good thing for other people. See, the reason why I wanna avoid the feelings in general is because – as always, having a big trust issue to depend my feelings on someone else…..
Wait, I’m getting distracted…..
Ok letssss get back to the real topic now shall we?!
I’m actually very confused and distracted and I bet you are too *wink*
So okay anyway. I just got out of a very serious dating/relationship about a year ago and I have been dating ever since up until now – we are still talking and still being the best of friends so no worries. And I like the fact that when I go out, meet someone new and we connect, it just feels refreshing. We bond, go out and do what other normal couples do and at one point, perhaps we find that we are not really compatible with each other and with time we decide to end whatever thing we have. It is okay for me to have that bit of a heartbreak.
Because deep down I’ve realized that if I’ve ever decided to take a relationship to another level and much longer, we are both gonna get hurt in the end. And most – almost every guy I’ve dated before has been very cool and we ended things in good terms. Some of them still keep in touch with me – friends thing, we both know nothing is gonna happen between us.
However, there is this one guy, a total d-bag I shall call him. HAH okay I’m being mean. Lets call him…….HMMM lets call him Danny.
So I met Danny on July, me and couple of friends decided to go out for our French friends’ farewell party. All of us went for a pubcrawl and before we headed out to the last club, I was feeling very tired and sleepy – I usually become the designated driver I HAVE NO IDEA WHY so I was totally sober the whole night, OK I took one beer- ONE! So… I was feeling tired and we decided to skip the last club
All of them were dancing and I just sat at the bar being the lonesome me, watching over my friends whennnnnn Danny decided to have a small talk with me. Honestly, I would have just said no to guys trying to make small talks at bars but he has one of the sexiest voices I’ve ever heard. And so, we kept talking and honestly, he was being a very good company to me that night. Long story short, by the end of the night he asked for my number, I gave it to him andddd he never called me back.
So, heh I got over it. Although I’m still wondering why the fuck do guys do such games – cause I won’t give my numbers if I don’t like that particular guy – I just don’t play games. If I like you, I like you. If I don’t, sorry then. Apparently Danny’s brother was out in a magazine cover and in his spread, he talks about the self esteem he gets when asking for girls’ numbers that he never intends to call – I mean how fucked up is that? You seriously depend your self esteem issue with how smooth you are to get girls’ numbers THAT YOU NEVER INTEND TO CALL?!
Again, long story short, I found him on facebook accidentally while looking up at some bands (he is a friend of one of the bands that I usually go concerts/gigs for) and my friend who strategically sat beside me sent him a FREAKING FRIEND REQUEST through MYYYY facebook (I swear to God I’m not making this up). I seriously have no emoji for that. He approved me, we talked, went out for more than a month, bla bla and after I got back from Boracay, Philippines (Yeah I went there last month! 😀 Shall make a post about that awesome trip!), we bumped into each other in a bar that we both happened to go to……. AND THEN KABOOM, I’ve never heard from him again. I should have known how douchebag-y he is when he decided not to call me after our first encounter.
I mean yes, I might weep, maybe there is something wrong with me and I’m okay with that, I know nobody is fucking perfect…
But what I wanna point out here is that, modern dating culture doesn’t mean that you have to connect with another person up to a few days, have fun together and vanish. When you feel that something is wrong, let the other person know and tell them that things are not working out for you. It is a win win situation for both parties.
Honestly, this is the first guy that had just vanished into thin air…..and the fact that I can still see him online on facebook sort of annoys me now…Anyhow, you got my point, right….Right??
Keeping everything simple, if you like someone, show and let them know. And if you don’t, again just let them know. No need for games and whatever sorts that will ruin people’s hearts and make them hopeless romantic for the rest of their lives HAHA ouch
Keep it cool, keep it simple and everybody wins! Cheers. Till next time, folks